The therapist would never refer to her older daughter by her name. She disclosed a lot and she would talk about her 2 daughters. She always called the younger daughter by her name but whenever she spoke of her older daughter she would always just say “The teenager”. I knew what her name was but she just would never call her by name.

For example: “ In a few weeks I’m taking a road trip with my kids. I know that (insert younger daughters name here) and my teenager are probably going to argue the whole time.
“Jersey. I have to move our appointment to later in the day. My teenager has a thing at school I have to attend.”

“Jersey I’ll be with (insert younger child’s name here) at the doctors tomorrow but text me if you need anything.”

So yeah..she would never call the teenager by her given name when talking to me. But always called the younger one by her given name. I even met the younger one once. She brought her to the office because she was home from school sick that day. Set her up in the back room with snacks and a pillow and an iPad while she did her sessions.