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sarahsweets · Jun 13, 2019, 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Jp31

The impression I got about being whizzed away in the car was that someone was at that time possibly a danger, or could put him in danger. The people who take him places, and are looking over him always keep tabs on him,

If this is danger for him then its automatically danger for you.

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A court order had declared that him and his ex partner must not have contact, however she is now dating the individual who arranged and set up my date 8 years ago. My reasoning behind us being taken away so quickly was possibly that she was there alongside her cronies and this could of possibly posed a legal complication or a threat to him. I know this entire relationship breakup has screwed him up

Did he explain the no contact order? Was it for domestic abuse on either side?

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I believe that the protection measures where there when we had our first few dates to protect him from possible setups or attacks by the other parties.

Do you see the words you are choosing to describe this situation? Attacks, danger...

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By now I'm fairly confident that nothing sinister is going on, and we've had no ordeals. He's planning to move closer to his new job within the security services soon which is ironically in my town, if he was too involved in organised crimes or some kind of syndicate then he wouldn't be able to leave it so easily, surely?

What makes you confident?
I understand that the opinons you heard may not be what you wanted to hear but you asked for opinions. When you shared what you shared we only have that to go on. So when someone points something out or asks a question they are basing that on what your posts say. Its unfair to say we are judging you or being unfair if we can only refer to what you have share. Frankly I an surprised that you are not more upset about this. The adjectives you used to describe things all involve danger, conflict and covert behavior. I do not see how you could possibly not be involved with those same dangers if you are dating him. How do the people protecting him actually protect him? do they whip out karate moves, use guns or other means of force?