I'm so sorry you're hurting SO MUCH, Throwaway12345! I don't have much more to add to what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! His mother is DEFINITELY being AWFUL both to you and to him and it's celar that she's trying to manipulate him! I do feel like you need to SERIOUSLY talk to him about ALL OF THIS and see how it goes from there. Make him understand that either he will stand up to his mother or that you'll have to leave him. No compromise since that's your own health and well-being we're talking about! Hopefully he'll listen to what you have to say and understand what you mean! If he doesn't, I'm afraid you may want to reconsider this relationship since it doesn't sound very good AT ALL! Remember that your health must be the priority NO MATTER WHAT! There's too much going on in our lives to deal with abusers as well! Definitely make him understand that something needs to change if he wants the relationship to continue! I understand it may be hard for you, but please think of yourself as well! I'm REALLY HAPPY that you're going to see a therapist soon! Hopefully he/she will be able to help you! Let us know what you decide to do, ok? I hope your mother is being supportive at least! Remember that WE ALL CARE ABOUT YOU AS WELL! THAT'S A PROMISE! Please keep us updated on your situation if you can and want to! WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK IN YOUR HEALIGN AND IN YOUR LIFE TO BOTH YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND! Sending many safe, wamr hugs to BOTH you and your boyfriend, Throwaway12345!