This is exactly what a potentially toxic and controlling person looks for. They can see YOU a mile away and they get so they KNOW if they treat a very niave often young inexperienced women a certain way they can gain full control. And they often have what is called their "flying monkeys" that follow them loyally too.

It's very important to NOT get caught up in the love bombing and intrigue. Individuals that can end up trapping someone they know is very inexperienced DO follow a certain playbook (it's called grooming) and they KNOW it works.

There are pimps Jp that look for young girls and promise them they will be protected and often their prey is young runaways. There are politicians that do this, there are teachers that do this and individuals in the mob and people who figure out how to act a certain way where they gain a lot of respect by colleges but also have a darker side to them that preys on inexperienced young women. These individuals can have a lot of power and respect like Bill Cosby who groomed many young innocent women only to date rape them and they say "I am so well liked and respected that if you tell no one will believe you". This is what a top respected news reporter did, Matt Lauer. He had collegues that respected him and trusted him that ended up being completely shocked when his darker side was finally exposed.

Often the grooming includes making the victim think THEY are the one with the power that is special and deserves special treatment. From what you wrote in your quote above, you are showing already that you are falling into this mindset. You are so inexperienced that you don't even realize that a controlling and potentially toxic individual knows just how to get you into this mindset you posted above.

When you are IN that mindset, that's when you really need to step back and really look at things. Every single victim ONLY sees it all "after they have been hurt and tossed to the curb" or when they are STUCK in the trap and can't see their way out of it. MANY predators Jp actually use some kind of "charity" or "social giving and caring environment" as a cover too. Predators always look for someone that is not independently strong and self sufficient too. Inexperienced in EVERY WAY that proves to be THE perfect target. Believe me, these individuals DO know exactly what to look for. HE has all the power Jp, and that's how he likes it.

There is NO WAY you would be able to really have ANY power.
HE has all the power Jp, and that's how he likes it.
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