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Old Jun 14, 2019, 12:44 PM
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Originally Posted by sarahsweets View Post

For some reason, this.. concerns me (maybe not the right word). Being able to call someone by something (partner, BF, husband, whatever) isn't all that trivial and its obviously important to you. I do not understand why you revisiting the subject BECAUSE he will not address it is a reason to be fed up with you. It's important to you, and even if it isn't for him, you are one half of the equation and you deserve to be heard and so what if this one things makes him uncomfortable? Its one thing you are asking for, and its not something that compromises him. For some reason it just doesnt sit right with me,
He has told me several times that he does not want to discuss this and I should respect his wish. I am trying, but of course this concerns me too, and I'm not okay with the ambivalence of it.

To his credit though, I know he is not ignoring the issue, and dislikes how he reacts to it. He has told me he wishes he could just say that he's my partner, but stresses that currently, he can not. He feels like it would compromise something. But he says he cannot tell what.

I should also mention that I am - currently - fine with not having anything to call him/our relationship, it's just something that I feel will drag on forever if we can't reach an agreement, and that's why I keep bringing it up. If he doesn't want a relationship, then he doesn't want a relationship, but that's not what he's saying.