I think they probably make it up as they go along. Mine won't disclose much but will randomly throw me the odd crumb occasionally... for instance, last year he told me where he was going on holiday. I once asked him what he did before he became a therapist and he wouldn't answer. He said that him answering might inflame my ET, but I couldn't work out whether he meant my ET could be inflamed by the simple act of him answering my questions or by me knowing what his job was before becoming a therapist.... I mean, what could he have possibly done that would be that good?!

More recently we had a small rupture because he left something out that wasn't supposed to be and it answered another question which I'd asked him a while back, which he had refused to answer. I found it the whole thing quite upsetting, not the thing so much but the hiding and the pretence and the not being able to know the person. I've been seeing him for a really long time and I feel close to him but this whole charade kills me. I've nearly left a couple of times because of it.