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Old Jun 14, 2019, 08:08 PM
blackocean blackocean is offline
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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo View Post
"Do you have pets?" versus "What kind of pets do you have?": the ultimate battle between casual conversation and achieving the ultimate intimate connection. What a world.

... And by that, I mean what a convoluted nonsense. Therapists are capable of having chit-chat conversations like the rest of us. Unless he is an absolute idiot, LT's question was an invitation to talk about pets. When the waiter asks, "Are you ready to order?", do you sit there like a lump and just say "Yes", or do you tell the poor soul that you want burger and fries, no pickles but with cheese?

Is the rest of the world communicating on a whole different level from me?!?
yeah
if someone asks if you have pets it’s pretty well implied they want to know more details than “yes,” and if a client asks a question it is obvious they don’t see the therapist answering that question with 6 or even 10 more words as an imposition on their therapy time. just “yes” is so awkward. Less awkward maybe because it is your therapist but in regular conversation I would expect a little bit of elaboration

however if my conversation partner didn’t understand this I would simply just ask what kind as a follow up, even my therapist

Last edited by blackocean; Jun 14, 2019 at 08:23 PM.
Thanks for this!
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