I posted my reply before I saw your additional post. I am glad to hear you two aren’t actually getting married any time soon.

Are you on disability? Is he? I am not sure why isn’t he working and it must be difficult to function two adults with no income. How do you pay bills?

Although it absolutely doesn’t excuse his mothers awful behavior I now see how she doesn’t consider him an independent adult and treats him like incapable child. I hope you two continue learning about adulthood and what needs to be done.

Please make sure all this doesn’t worsen your mental health and please don’t marry any time soon