Huh. I thought the pill thing was cute. He wasn't being entirely serious, it's a very cheesy movie reference and was not meant to be a flat-out ultimatum. He says a lot of things tongue-in-cheek, but of course you guys can't know that.


I don't find him to be creepy at all. He can be a bit of a man-child, though he steps up when necessary, and his humor is somewhat hard to get if you don't know him personally.




Thank you for coming out here and sharing this with me. I'm sorry you went through this What foundations for abuse do you see?


G definitely is not a sociopath, nor does he share any of the associated character treats. He's very empathetic, very kind and soft-hearted, honest and loyal. He would never manipulate someone or hurt them on purpose. What he does enjoy is pushing me a bit out of my comfort zone, but he would never give me an actual ultimatum like this or cross any lines that I'm not comfortable with. He knows me very well.


Literally the only issue we have is how much he's trying to get around defining what we've got. He's never acted this way with anything else in 10 years. His friends and family are equal parts bemused/amused/worried/confused at how he is behaving. I've never seen him yell at one of his friends before. It's not something "he does".


I've talked to J (the friend who got yelled at) on the phone and he said G seems uncomfortable with how much he likes me and that's why he is acting so strange. He thinks G is very insecure about making our relationship official, and the attention and gentle teasing we're getting is overwhelming him because he didn't expect to actually want a relationship with me in the long run.


These are not excuses. I have experience with abusive relationships too. But that's not what's happening here. I do appreciate the concern though.