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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Reading through your thread. What I find to be odd is that he is older, yet is not able to make more of a commitment to you by defining the relationship. He also referred to it is an "affair". I also wonder, since you had stated you wanted to perhaps keep things open for your husband, then also said you would never be back with him again, if "G" worries that you may wish one day to return to your husband and that's why he is so reluctant? I strongly suspect that that may be the real reason and he's not talking about it with you. Why else refer to this as a "little affair"?
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That's the feeling I'm getting too by now, especially after talking to his friend on the phone. Why else would he be insecure? He has no reason to be and he is not the irrational kind, so the only thing I can imagine is that he's not sure I won't leave him.
But, the relationship with my former husband is over. I have no desire whatsoever to return to him, even though I still deeply care for him.
I have reassured G of this several times, but of course words don't do any good if my actions don't match up. I
am still talking to my former husband, though I'm very transparent about it. G has told me numerous times that he completely understands and it's not necessary to cut him out of my life completely. He is also not jealous. I will bring this up again with him.
He hasn't had troube to commit in the past. He is still friends with two of his former partners and the relationships were healthy and long-lasting.