pachy... i DO hear you.. especially the part that said "...To put up with me is the first step to understanding me" That is central to me too and a lot do not understand

i dont know about how things go with your T or group, etc but i agree with your observations. Some of this is by virtue of well intended help..people doing all they know how to, being *themselves* in their attempts to help... no matter how misguided, and no matter how far off the mark they are in understanding you... thats a sad truth.

some of it is bound to be communication issues... i have plenty of them... do you find that you present a reasonable idea people just either look at you funny or react in a way that seems inexplicable to you? Notice the lack of suggestion on how to change that.... and it would be changing the action not the person btw

i am so sorry you feel so alone and out of range with everyone who is meant to help you...

echoes is right... a different approach may be better for you. i generally try to suggest a client work things out with a T when possible, but this sounds like an obstacle, mainly a detachment and indifference toward the T.... if you feel as you described then he cant help you

and i am really uncertain now... i want to help, but i don't want to do what you said these others do... i hear a lot in what you are saying, but i don't know if you are asking to have that feedback or not.... ??