I like the term "violence" because that's what it is, violence to one's self? That makes it much more clear to me than "abuse" which is such an overused term today; kids ask each other, "Why are you giving me abuse?" when they're playing around with each other, we use to call it getting "flak" (good WWII term for anti-aircraft fire. You can't play with violence, it refuses. Abuse is violence, plain and simple.