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Originally Posted by Sisabel
Well. Here’s a thought. Maybe I’m not as good a listener as I think I am? Maybe I don’t offer the empathy and advice that I think I do? Maybe my friendships are more of a reflection of myself than I think. I don’t know. But I will say this... I do spend more time, in general, responding to other people’s texts and not getting responses back when I text. Or gradually I end up becoming more and more of a listener when things didn’t start out that way. I’ll look at my own behaviors more closely though. I’m doing something that doesn’t make for good friendships...
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I think you are being too hard on yourself Sisabel. If you find a few friends with healthy self-esteem, they won't be on at you all the time to listen or help....they'll just want to hang and have fun. I don't think the problem is you but the nature of the people you are befriending. Think about it. You could be the best listener and helper in the world but if that person is an emotional mess, they will never be able to reciprocate...thus you are always the giver. But that's not the case with everyone.