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Originally Posted by downandlonely
I also find myself being the listener and helper and not having it reciprocated. One person who I spent close to $1000 trying to help got mad when I tried to set some boundaries. She texted me and called me the C word as well as other stuff that might be triggering to people. I promptly blocked her. Luckily I haven't seen her since. As far as breaking the pattern of being the helper, I honestly don't know how.
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Oh my goodness DownandLonely! I am so sorry that happened to you. I would never ask a friend for such a sum. Not even a family member. I'm so glad that person is no longer in your life.
As far as ending the cycle of being the "helper," I don't think it's very complicated. Just stop helping. We can be pleasant and respectful without actively helping others. Then the people who stick around will be balanced folks who don't look to us for help.