I allow a lil give here and there but I have really sturdy boundaries. I have no problem speaking my mind.

A few months ago a friend of mine kept wanting to go shopping and lunch a town an hour south I said ok but I don’t want to be gone for hours and hours .. I figured after lunch we would head home , but no she had “ a few” more place she just had to run into. I said M I told you can’t manage more than a couple hours and that id just sit in the car. She finally cane back an hour later !!!!

We got back to her house and as I was gathering my things I told her that I would not go out of town with her again because she didn’t “ hear” me when I told her I could not handle so long out. She started crying and I said and that’s what I’ll be doing for a couple days trying to recover from this trip. I got in my car and left

She was blowing up my phone, callls and texts which I ignored for a couple days and then blew up on her for pulling that shyt.

We have gotten together a few times for lunch and she’s come over a few times to watch movies.

I do love her as a friend but she just pushed and pushed until I snapped.

Sometimes it takes a heavy hand to do what you need to do for your own wellbeing.

There’s nothing wrong with strong boundaries. Make them and when you feel them being pushed remind yourself why you made them in the first place.

It can be hard, but practice does make it easier.