Group hug, everybody! Thanks so much for responding. For years, I didnt write threads, only responded to other peoples posts. I was a teacher for years so sharing info came naturally. As the stress increases in my caregiving/medical advocacy for my ex, I finally decided in desperation to reach out and there you all were-the greatest —and I so appreciate you. I have learned so much from this, I do need reminders to do self care and to plan strategies. You are all so strong!