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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Thanks, seesaw! This is something I hadn't ever known or even considered... the validation part. I never accepted his abuse- I always stood up to him.
But he was in fact manipulating me to need his approval and validation -- YES.
He provided a LOT of that early on... validated my worth and value as a person constantly.
Then in one fell swoop, he took it all away. He invalidated our entire relationship, demeaning the value and importance of our relationship and by extension, devaluing ME.
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It is so spot on, the way you explain. In fact, those are the things that they take away from people like ourselves. Leaving us with the emptiness and damage they were trying to use to make themselves feel better.
I think i get confused and wonder why anyone could gain anything from hurting someone emotionally like that.
To me it is sickening