LT

I can relate, while I don't have kids, being dismissed/ignored is my biggest trigger in life. It is because it's something my mom has always done. I've always been forgotten. The thing I've realized since therapy, nothing I say or do or wish can change her. She has to decide to change if she wants but I can't force it. What I can do, is be the best version of me I can be. I can like myself, and try to be around the people I do find in life who don't ignore or dismiss me. I also keep in mind that everyone handles things differently, for their own reasons, even though it seems personal, it might have nothing to do with me.

I wish things could be better for you but I don't know that it will ever change. Maybe finding some online friends who have children on the spectrum could help, it could give you a chance to have more support and people to talk to who understand. Even in person is better but unsure how to find them. Good luck