I don't think you can truly shed you background but you can learn to disregard it.just because that is what your family of origin chose doesn't mean that is one that you may opt for. it is the same decision I had to make with my family. I do not make with my family. my father made decisions I do not accept as truth. i.f somehpw I will come in to $$ my first action will be to go to Auschwitz and make peace for my fathers actions. I live my ;life in the exact opposite of my fathers. it is the best I can do. I can ot erase his actions but I can make peace with it .