He doesn't want you to say he's your boyfriend, yet get's upset when you don't. He throws friends out who understandably think you are in a relationship. He's a real flake, and there's emotional abuse happening. He wants things to go how he wants them to go, and that can change at any time. I think you might like some chaos in your life; games. Why not be on your own for a time. His age is a factor, no matter how much you like hanging with " mature " people. He has had more time to create his messed up relationship maneuvers.