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Originally Posted by Codep
There is probably a lot of things I dont even realize I do that sabotage it. I dont know why but when someone starts expressing a genuine interest to get to know me I automatically assume they are trying to manipulate me for sex or to use me some other way. I always assume insidious intentions.
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Have you been manipulated in the past, or otherwise felt betrayed in a close relationship, and not dealt with it? I know that sounds like something obvious, but you'd be surprised how often we fail to recognize these things in our own lives, or fail to understand how deeply it affects our beliefs and behavior.
This might sound hypocritical coming from someone like me, but most people aren't manipulative.