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Originally Posted by Codep
My 8 year relationship ended with some pretty major betrayal and abandonment. I was left for another woman when I was 2 weeks away from having our second child. It was absolutely traumatizing. So yes, there is definitely some unresolved issues from that. Which was 3.5 years ago. But I feel like my problems with intimacy go back even further than that even. But since then have most definitely gotten worse.
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Yeah, that'd definitely do it. Have you talked with anyone about this?
When you're in a relationship and you begin to feel the urge to sabotage it to protect yourself from future pain, instead tell your partner about your break-up and how it affected you. This isn't so much about them, and you're not asking them to alleviate your fears or anything like that. It's more about you learning to express your feelings in a healthier way. Let your feelings be known so they don't get bottled up, and then spill over in forms of unconscious sabotage.