You seem to bring up these kind of social comparisons frequently in your posts, and I'm sort of curious as to what's at the root of them.

Is it that you don't feel like you have the basics (which I do feel most people need to be content) -- a living wage, a few caring relationships, a decent place to live --and that no therapist can understand that? (In short, is it an issue of real lack?) Or is is that you feel your therapists have a lifestyle that you're envious of -- amazing houses, nice clothes, foreign holidays? (Is it an issue of comparison?)

I really empathise with you if it's the former. When you don't have enough money to live, no job, and you don't have someone to rely on it's exceptionally hard to get that across to someone who hasn't gone through not having enough. I didn't get it until I went through four hellish years of it. I've had some decent enough therapists, but I'm not sure any of them would really understand not having enough money to buy food or pay rent. And to be honest, I don't think therapy can ever solve that particular problem. I honestly think this kind of problem means taking a very practical approach and then just getting through hell. It means looking at making very small steps (like getting any job, like socialising even if theres no close friendship to be had) so you can give yourself some breathing space and look around at how to get to the next thing.

But if it's the latter, I'd really encourage you to think about what's behind all those things the therapist has. I grew up upper middle class, and it was effing miserable. The house was a museum my mom wouldn't let us do anything in, the holidays were my mom complaining about everything and sulking in hotel rooms, the marriage eventually had an affair for which I was sent to therapy, me and my brother regularly had nervous breakdowns because the demands on us to be high-achieving perfect beings were insane. Your therapist's seemingly perfect life will have skeletons you are not seeing, whether that's a gambling addiction, negative equity, dying parents, or massive overspending. The house may be beautiful, but you really have no idea what's happening inside. Your therapist does not have a picture perfect life.

I do think there's some truth to what you're saying about it being harder to get certain things when you're older and have never had them. But I do think you can still make positive changes that will improve the quality of your life, I really do. It's always helped me to look back on my life in five year chunks -- I'm always amazed by how much change had happened, even though I feel like my day to day stays the same.

Have you considered making a small goal that will help you? Maybe something like exercising every day? I once read something I thought was very clever -- that fitness is one of the few things that is fair, that what you put in is exactly what you get out, and that no one can pay someone else to do the work for them. It's a very small thing, and it won't solve your life, but it's a foot in the right direction.