Oooh I find this thread very interesting! I’m not sure where I’d hit my T’s boundaries. I’m very attached to him and therefore very curious about his personal life. I asked a few personal questions which he’s answered (even when I really thought I was crossing a line), such as whether he has kids or not, where he’s going on holiday (followed by a couple of minor details, such as how he’s getting there or what he thought of the scenery). He has told me stories about some of his friends before (using their names), and also told me of times in his life when he felt like I’m feeling. So I guess he’s pretty open. I found out his divorced (not from him), but I would never ask him about that, I’d feel too bad. I also know that he has a dog and sometimes smokes.

To be fair, I’d probably find the way he holds his fork interesting if I got the chance to see him eat, so I don’t know what an expected amount of self disclosure is.