Ok, time for some deep breaths. I see different members trying to be supportive here with this new member and this challenge she is describing. Is it real? right? Well, I have been a member here for a really long time and I sure have seen or read some very strange things. I have actually seen someone create a false identity and pull other members into believing this false identity. Member X ended up coming up with a whole new identity too and thought it was great that so many were fooled. I watched this individual present a charming persona and how this individual learned to be very politically correct and having the right lean and slowly charming many members too. Member X pretended to be something very different than member X actually was and to my horror a lot of members were drawn to this member and I can't say enough how triggering it was for me at the time, actually myself and some others that were being badly triggered as well. And even when the TRUTH finally came out, "oh but member X is nice and in pain and deserves to be helped".

I also witnessed this IRL too where an individual can create a persona that is NOT the truth or based on reality and yet can be extremely convincing. A friend of mine experienced this challenge and got pulled into believing this individual's lies. This friend was no spring chicken at the time either. This friend of mine was taken on quite the ride too until it ALL FELL APART. This friend was completely shocked and devastated by this entire experience. And there were other people that went along with this guy's tales too. This friend of mine was so shattered and confused and I used to have to make time at night where I would talk to her as she repeated all the things she experienced with this individual trying to process this crazy trip he took her on mentally and emotionally. I knew he was real because I had actually met him too.

One thing I do know is that a person can create a false persona and can actually get others to go along with it and actually BELIEVE them. This individual could be making all of this up for attention, YET, this individual could be someone that is actually experiencing an individual that is creating something about themselves that is confusing her.

I myself have been experiencing a person that I share about here and at times I know it can sound UNBELIEVABLE. I sit across from my therapist NEEDING him to listen and believe me because the individual I am dealing with is REALLY MESSED UP. It's possible there are others that might think I am delusional or making this up for attention, but that is simply not the case.

It's possible this individual is experiencing something very confusing. It's also possible this person is having psychotic episodes, it's also possible this person is looking for attention. Bottom line, we just don't know, could be any one of these challenges. The only thing members here can do is listen, if it's too much for any member to handle, then it's ok to step back too. And sometimes, a person creates stories that have to do with themselves too, they put in things they may have experienced in their lives that they need to talk about a certain way in order to help them deal with whatever it might be.

One thing I do know is that human beings are incredibly complex and the longer I live the more I have come to realize there often is no "simple answer" or rhyme or reason. It can be hard to know how much is real or imagined or even made up altogether. One thing I can say is that I myself have been triggered on this site, but also IRL as well. I try very hard to stop and step back and sort through how something affects me and "why" and it has been at times very challenging. Often I talk about something I am experiencing IRL and a person suddenly thinks I am talking about them too or even something they said, when that is not the case. It can be quite the challenge.

At any rate, this individual seems to be reaching out for some kind of help. It can take time to see what this person may really need help with. As I have mentioned, sometimes the person asking for help is dealing with something that sounds strange, but it's the person they are experiencing that is the problem and not so much them.