DP much of the relationship I had with T would have been highly frowned upon by people here and most professionals. We crossed most boundaries. The relationship worked and we accomplished a lot. She was what I needed to open up and accept me for who I am without all the shame and guilt.

EMDR T and I have discussed it a few times and she knows that T and I had an unique relationship and they spoke on the phone a few times. Emdr T says that because of my history I needed somebody willing to break some of the rules in order for me to be able to trust. Everything T did was because she cared and wanted to help me.

Her death has been horrifically painful but I am who I am today because of her willingness to do what I needed.