That's a right question. Ok, let me explain myself.

First of all, I feel pain about what I'm writing. You've read some of my other threads and every time I post it, I feel pain. And talking about my problems and possible ways to solve them or, at least, lower the pain can be really helpful for me. That's a way to cope with it. (Not to mention, that it's not helping blaming people in rudeness after they tell somebody that it's not helpful to write empty, over-positive and meaningless messages.)

Second, I seek out for the people who used to have similar problems, but found a solution. I don't see any point to post things like "hey, I understand you, I'm in the same boat as you! <many smiles and CAPS>", but I do appreciate things like "you know, I used to have the same problem and suffered a lot, but now the things have changed, and I can tell you how I solved my problem: <...>".

Third, I'm truly wondering if there's even any point in improving your self-esteem, when your problems is not related to it. Or someone could tell me that my problem is my self-esteem, then I'll listen to his arguments, and if they are right, I accept it, and start working on my self-esteem.