I am having a difficult time myself. My anxiety is high and I’ve been feeling unwell in general. I’m very stressed and discouraged by how I’m performing at my job. My therapist is helping me deal with these stresses. This coworker of mine is always seeking my support in her issues yet when I try to help she never seems to respond. it’s difficult managing my own stuff and stressful trying to help her at the same time. I was having a very hard time last night with my physical symptoms and my anxiety. I took a xanax and fell into a deep sleep. I woke up in the middle of the night with a text from her and she said “mountaindewed, I’m hurt.” I was in a daze from being woken up from a deep sleep. I texted back “what’s wrong what do you need?” Then I immediately fell back asleep. I woke up this morning to another text and I guess her boyfriend was in the hospital for something I can’t mention on this site because it’s too triggering. I didn’t even know she had a boyfriend. And in her text she said she really F ed up. I texted her at 6 this morning and asked her again what she needed and she didn’t give any type of answer about what she needed or even what happened with her boyfriend or how he was doing. she said she called off work today and she wasn’t feeling good. I texted her a couple hours ago asking how things are going and I haven’t gotten an answer.

I don’t know how to handle this. My therapist says she sounds like she’s borderline. My mom says I shouldn’t be stressing out over her especially since I am already under enough pressure from work and dealing with my own anxiety. Does anyone have any suggestions? Why does she seek my help but then not want it or answer my questions?