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Originally Posted by theoretical
You and I are in the same age range.
What makes you think that those with a lot of likes and social media friends get more respect? Perhaps it's that they're liked and have many friends because they're respected. They've done something to earn that respect, or they're just generally charismatic.
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You bring up a good point - on my old Facebook profile I had 810 friends and on my Insta I get an average of 80-100 likes on my posts, so I guess I'm doing something right.
I guess to reframe my main point I've been around people who supported leaky boundaries so the lines of intimacy and acquaintanceships have been very blurred. So at one point I've friended "friends of friends of friends..." and in IRL have often given into pressure to socialize very personally even if I am busy or have little energy on my part to connect with others. This was common with a lot of the people who I hung out with in college - who turned out to be jerks in the end or didn't associate with me outside the usual settings.
I have been recovering from toxic social experiences so I hope it doesn't sound like I'm complaining too much!