I don't know. My mother was the cruelest person I have ever known, and passed on ten years ago. I have never forgiven her. But I have closure. All that took was another person to tell me they saw through the perfect woman she disguised herself to be and thereby validated everything for me that I had been feeling. My two ex husbands were narcissists. To say I was walked over repeatedly is an understatement. I had a hard time letting go of my pain and vindictiveness but now I simply don't care. They are not my problem anymore. I hear they are each someone else's now. The biggest factor though is the new life I have built for myself now - one that none of these people can touch.