@Divine1966, I just learned recently that he stole from me in order to secretly buy DXM and secretly trip while we were living together. YET ANOTHER LIE and I am OUTRAGED to learn this!!! That's why. Bottom line. I just cannot get over it and it's been two years. It's maddening for me... do you think it's not maddening for me just after I've even been married? The anger and the rage persist and I cannot get past it. That's my challenge. That's why I am asking about how to forgive someone. I feel forgiveness is the only way i can let go of my rage. My therapist is NO HELP.