My T is hopeful that in time I will trust him enough to allow myself to need him emotionally in ways I will not now. I am so used to being an independent loaner he desperately wants me to be able to connect with him, he wants that opportunity to be a repairitive relationship, to be the “good enough therapist” where my parents could not meet my needs. He struggles with how dig in I am and how hard it is to connect with me.