Oh absolutely. I know what you are saying. I personally don’t see why there is a need to forgive him or get an apology. When I waste my energy on wrong people I focus on forgiving myself for making a mistake, learn my lesson, do better next time and move on with my life. I find it important to not be in a victim mode. If I was a willing participant and did all this for a person out of my own volition, wasn’t kidnapped and forced to do stuff, then I acknowledge my own part in this. Reflect on why I did it and be done. I see no value in analyzing why someone did what they did. I reflect only on my own actions.

But golden seems to struggle with moving on without actual forgiveness and him acknowledging wrongdoings. There is also ruminating issue and wanting to follow up with him. I am not fully understanding this need but I respect the fact that’s what golden eve does and that’s what she wants. I am not sure it’s attainable though. Hopefully eventually it all gets settled one way or the other. This dude took enough space in Golden’s head! She deserves to be free of him