A Warm Hello to All!
Just checking in. Enjoying reading the many posts, trying to catch up here!

this marital separation has become a serious nightmare in just 4 weeks. It is one thing after another! Over the past few days, there have been multiple "attacks" on the computer I have been using. Somehow, the network and the security program were accessed/disabled. Only my H and I had those passwords. Approx 800 pictures of family, events, trips , pets, etc., all gone. 3 Backup sets for computer restoration are also gone. Nobody else would be interested in all of the pics, etc. He denies knowing anything about the "stolen" pics/files. It is all so weird. I have asked him if he would like to use the computer and his answer has been "no."

So, what is going on? It is all disturbing, to say the least. He is showing a very dark side which I know nothing about, yet am learning about EVERY day! He must have hired an IT person to have pulled this off.? Why the need to eradicate backup sets? What is so very important/secretive that anyone would go to such extremes?

I am beyond exhausted. cannot fathom anyone acting the way he does. I have never know this side of him... at all. People are shocked by the things he has been doing in the past 4 weeks. I could say more, yet figure this is more than enough, considering this is an open forum. What a nightmare!

I have kept reminding him that we need to be able to work together to sell property, to sort out storage units, to work out the details of our divorce, etc. It is all so very strange. I am not the one who was violating our vows. He has done so...for many more years than I had ever suspected. He is, for some reason,trying very hard to "swipe" the computer remotely, even though he has been repeatedly offered the computer, intact with all files, pics, documents, etc. Very strange and very disturbing. As far as I knew, we were one another's best friend for 27 years. He was/is living some kind of a secretive, dark life. He is caught in one lie right after another with blatantly clear
'proof" that he is lying. I do not know how I can work with him on all that needs our attention/cooperation Go ahead and read between the lines if you care to do so! I cannot disclose much more at this time.

He is also very angry that he has to settle @ 50:50, as this is state law.

Thanks for reading! I am feeling very confused about what is going on... it all seems so very bizarre to me.
He has a straight face, adamantly denying everything he has done even recently and when shown hard evidence. Crazy-making!

Much Love to All!