This is a unique kind of pain, isn’t it? I like the way you describe it although I hadn’t thought of it as a “need.” I have certainly felt this too, although the origins of my “psychic pain” are likely different and have lessened a bit with time. Feeling this sort of anguish and not having it taken care of is a special kind of torture. Certainly my husband would never understand and frankly, it’s too embarrassing (and complicated) to tell my T about although I’ve definitely let it slip out in emails.