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Originally Posted by Lrad123
I do the same thing. My T has said that he thinks that I think I’m “too much” for him. He may be right and the reason may be that if I feel like I want (need?) something from him, he’ll be overwhelmed or frustrated. My solution is to contemplate not showing up just about every week so that that doesn’t happen. I rarely skip, but I do agonize about it on a regular basis. And I sometimes play out a scene in my head where he agrees that we’re not a good fit and that we should stop working together.
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I've told my T before that I worry I'm too much or too needy for him, and he says that I'm not. In this case, it's kind of a pattern in my life, that I worry I'm too much for people, so it's something useful to explore. And I also feel safer asking T something like that than, say, a friend (though I have sort of done that before, just not in those exact words--but it's been more recently, since my work with this T, so I think he helped me learn it can be OK to ask that).