I finally had to draw the line in the sand and am taking a break from going out on any more lunches with this lady I have written about before. We go out about once a week and in the good weather will go to the park and walk and sit and watch the canoes and ducks and geese go by for hours if it is nice. I like sitting in the shade and she likes more in the sun but we can usually find a compromise.

Well last Saturday was the only day without rain for several days proceeding and predicted for many days after so it was a good day to get out. We ate on a patio and then had planned to spend the afternoon outside at the park we like to go to. As I was paying the bill she got a phone call from another friend and accepted an invitation, without any discussion with me, to be at her house at 4pm that same day.

Since it was already 2:30 I suggested would not leave much time for the park and hoped to open up a conversation and maybe she would call back and change her plans with her friend. She suggested instead of the park on the nice sunny day we go to the mall instead.

Because it suits her schedule now.

We ended up going to the park for an aborted trip. It was very nice there. When I got home I remembered that I could have spent the day with my son instead of her and still be at the park.

Then i texted her that she had treated me unfairly and I was taking a break from going to lunch. She apologized but then immediately turned the focus into what she wanted to discuss with her friend rather than what happened and my hurt feelings.

I saw myself as purely instrumental in her life. I pay for her lunches and am company to sit out in the sun when she has time for me. We would have been out till 6 or 7 if our day hadn't been interrupted by her friends phone call.