The Outside90, you are right. I apologize.

You said you felt lost and didn't know what to do. I gave you feedback on my thoughts because I have been through similar situations. I had to break away and get help to understand why I needed someone like my ex in my life and why I drank the way I did. I learned about recovery and personal growth because that aspect of my life was complicated and multi-faceted. There was no quick fix.

I had a long road ahead of me and now, looking back, I am grateful I began that journey. I am grateful I found people who could help me untangle my messed up thinking and I could get better. That is what I was referring to for bettering yourself.

I hope you find the answers you need.