Definitely leave him AS SOON AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN, TheOutsider90! Abuse is NEVER justified! I'm so sorry that you're going through ALL of this! It was not your fault if you were abused, altough letting him drive while he was drunk was definitely irresponsible for BOTH of you. But for now the priority must be getting away from him. I doubt things will change. They certainly won't change very soon. In fact they may even escalate. The fact that he was planning on cheating on you, because that's what he was planning on doing, just cementifies this in my opinion. Just leave him, file a police report if you can, DEFINITELY divorce him and take GREAT care of yourself. Take ALL the necessary steps to protect yourself. It won't be easy but it IS necessary for your own health! Just stay safe, ok? I'm glad you can stay in someone else's house. I'm sure there are PLENTY of shelters for women who have been through domestic abuse as well. I'm so sorry your friend is making you feel guilty about this. It is NOT your fault. Don't let neither him or her guilt trip you into coming back with him. You need to LEAVE HIM! Please keep us updated on your situation as much as you possibly can and let us know how things are going for you! We ALL do care about you! THAT'S A PROMISE! Wish you the BEST of luck in BOTH your healing and your life! YOU DESERVE MUCH MUCH BETTER THAN HIM! DON'T YOU EVER FORGET THAT! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, TheOutisder90! PLEASE STAY SAFE AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN!