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Old Jun 24, 2019, 07:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote View Post
Yes, I agree. I also find his behavior, his tactics Very abusive. I gave him a couple of short articles on abuse, especially emotional abuse. I'd also told him that he is frightening people with his behavior. It does notmatter to him; he does even more.

I do not understand why he is targeting me, abusing me, etc. Why does he want to hurt me even more?

I feel strongly that he feels like he can bully this household simply because there is no male figure here. I think he feels free to abuse women.. Again, the man is now a stranger to me.
With my second husband, since I knew his secrets and I was leaving him, he made me into the bad person to protect himself from feeling like a failure or a bad person. I didn’t come back so things went really bad after that. I think that may be what your husband is doing, but don’t know him personally. I do feel you’re being treated unfairly. It isn’t your fault.
Hugs from:
bizi, Wild Coyote
Thanks for this!
Sunflower123, tecomsin, Wild Coyote