I am divorced from my wife of 17 years. Recently, things have been going better and we made plans to do a road trip together and do some antiquing, which we both enjoy. It was part of a plan to spend some quality time together and see if there was still a possibility to rekindle a relationship.

During the course of choosing the dates, a plan was suggested by her to make it a 5 day trip. The first 2 days, we would be antiquing, but the final 3 days, she would like to spend in a town getting some tattoo work done.

During the time we were apart, she found a tattoo artist who is really good, and also gives her discounts and is willing to take payments. She ended up in a sexual relationship with her, but she has since made it clear that she is no longer interested in having sex with him.

She wants to go there to have a bunch of work done and it is extremely affordable. She asked if I would have a problem with it and I made it clear that I would not.

Long story short, she is talking about having at least two full days (6 hours, or however long it takes) of work done and told me that I could just "occupy myself) for those days.

Since the town she will be in is really not that far from home, I suggested that since it was going to occupy that much time, I could just go back and then come pick her up when it is done. I am really not interested in spending a couple of days loitering.

At this point, I am being accused of not being supportive and she is calling off the whole idea on working on a relationship. I thought I was being supportive, but that being supportive did not mean that I had to sit around bored when I could be getting other things done.

Am I suppose to wander the streets and be bored out of my mind in order to show support? I mean, is this reasonable?

I would prefer answers from people with some knowledge in this area.