I honestly don’t see perfectionism and high standards. In fact I see that golden used to have rather low standards in men and perhaps somewhat low expectations of herself.

Hopefully it all changed and Golden values herself much higher than she used to at the time of settling for this loser.

Someone with high standards wouldn’t date let alone get engaged with someone who isn’t even independent and doesn’t even have any income let alone a career. Someone with perfectionism syndrome wouldn’t get engaged tp a man who can’t even afford to propose with engagement ring!

I don’t see the issue as high standards, but rather low standards and lack of self respect (in the last, not now)

I am pleased to see that things are getting better and golden values herself higher now. Punishing oneself is unnecessary and detrimental but recognizing that one can and should do better is paramount if one wants improvement