Hi Eve. Is this person local and connected to you in any way via mutual contacts? Or is he far away and completely disconnected from your circle that there is no chance of you two crossing paths ever again?

For me, being on guard (because my former emotional abuser is local, and I am related to her and have mutual contacts) has interfered with the process of forgiveness.

I feel like forgiveness could lead to me letting my guard down.

Also, having to bump into her once in a while in person or hear about what she said from the mutual contacts/ other family members have been triggering for me.

Is there a triggering factor for you? Like, you have mutual friends on Facebook and you see his photo or name show up on your friends page? Is there something in your life that reminds you of him like maybe a necklace he gave you? Is there a way to get rid of/ cut off what brings back memories?