Being tongue- tied about a big secret in therapy is scary when you are thinking about telling yet not telling. It splits attention and creates dissonance that is difficult with which to sit. I hope your therapist welcomes and nurtures all of the real you and understands nuances if/ when you do confide this. It’s a big wide beautiful world with room for all to be who they really are. Since society and families of origin often cannot embrace this, it is crucial a T holds space for your real self.