Bizi,

Well done on leaving Fat Pats and not drinking. That shows you can do it, when you set your mind to it.

As you probably know, i have a lot of problems with AA, but when I was early in my sobriety joourney, I was heavily involved. There's no way to have a sponsor in AA and not read the big book, it's the basis of the program. I'm personally an aetheist, and I didn't find the Big Book overly preachy - that tended to come from other members.

If you don't want to do AA, but still want some support, there's Women for Sobriety, and Smart Recovery.

Good luck finding something that fits.

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