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Old Jun 26, 2019, 02:08 PM
Anonymous48672
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So today I'm cleaning out my mother's apartment of more junk (she's already in the nursing home) and came across a painting my cousin did. So, I messaged him on Facebook asking him where he wants me to drop it off.

Now, he and his wife have been married for 6 years and have never invited me to their house for any reason at all during this time. A few times he and I have argued about why he doesn't like me and so I've accepted that and respect his boundaries.

That said, when you ask "hey I have this of yours, where do you want me to put it?" the response is usually "oh, you can bring it over anytime and leave it" to other variations on that theme. But with my cousin? Just a lot of ********.

Instead of something like "well you can drop it off at my work or my house or my mom's place (my aunt) or my siblings place (he has 5), he messaged back "I have to go to a meeting in 2 hours I'll get back to you." Just utter ******** response.

So, I was prepared to trash his painting b/c frankly it's ugly anyway. But I let my anger get the best of me so I responded, "You know, most normal people would just respond that i could drop it off at their place, but we both know you don't want me near your house or you would have invited me there a long time ago." So he responded, "What the --. Since you have a time crunch, just trash the paining."

He should have just told me to throw his painting away from the start.

I think it's funny that he tries to gaslight me, when I bring up the ugly truth that he doesn't like me but he acts like he does on Facebook (fake). I'm direct too, and mince no words when it comes to MY boundaries. And if people -- even family -- don't like that, well too bad. Why should I change to accommodate someone else? That is not how I want to relate to people -- to act like a doormat so that others don't feel awkward.