No, that's not what his message said. If he had written that in plain words that would be different, showing that he respects my time and my feelings. That is the crux of the dynamic between this cousin and myself; he has never respected my feelings or my time.

I am not a monster. I'm not going to throw out someone's artwork until I ask them if they want it or not. His weakness is his sense of entitlement and his refusal to respect other people's time and feelings.

He gaslights by not being respectful. All he had to do was write, "My schedule will be crazy this weekend with my wife out of town. But I will be home at such and such time, so you can drop it off then." But he won't do that b/c he doesn't respect me or my time, and accuses me of escalating when I call him out on gaslighting me, which is what gaslighters do...deflect and accuse.