Number one: I've never met her in person, but I know a lot of details about her. She has a lot of problems, but that only seems to endear her to me. She's not in a relationship. I want to get over it, because I'm no good for anyone. My own inferiority says not to try. She's also said she doesn't meet people from online. I want to hold her and tell her all this trouble she has is going to be ok. I haven't approached her because I don't want to lose her as a friend. I really want to get over the crush.

Number two: I do know her, well, and in real life. I find her the most physically attractive woman I've ever met. She's slightly dorky and awkward and I totally relate. I almost always feel totally dorky and awkward. I can't even think around her, and she either knows she drives me up the wall or is very clueless. I have made serious efforts just to be near her, and only to be supportive. I haven't told but one person about how I feel and he moved away and doesn't know how bad it is. I want to get over it, because she's married. I want to be friends, but I'm very attracted to her. I find myself taking mental snapshots of her face and eyes and smiles. She haunts me at night. It's after 2:30 and I'm awake because I was near her today and still see her smiling. I remember how her eye makeup was a little off on one side because of the heat. I don't want to break up a family. I respect her and her family. It's not like I stand a chance anyway.

How can I get over this mess I am? It's obsession and desire for the unobtainable. I know I'm doing wrong by crushing and I do feel terrible about it but it's also wonderful at the same time, though conflicted in several directions at once. Gah! Help?