I've recently learned about the Asch conformity experiments (Asch conformity experiments - Wikipedia) that show that people are more likely to submit to popular pressure than they are to stand for factual reality. This is considered "normal", pro-social, and non-toxic.

This is positively horrifying to me.

This is a major, if not the primary, reason for my social woes. Lies are told about me all the time, and people simply agree with the liars even if the facts are in front of them. Between those who slander and libel me, and those who simply "go along" with this abuse simply to be "agreeable" there is no one left, no one who will defy the liars and see the real me.

On top of this, people are demanding that *I* be "agreeable" - they demand that I promote and perpetuate the abuse that "agreeableness" supports! They demand that I erase my own self-determination - and for the purpose of supporting abuse on top of it! This seems as bad as a warcrime to me. They want me to erase my very being to support the same heinous acts they inflict on me!

How do I defeat this? How do I break the cycle of abuse for the sake of "agreeableness"? How do I get people to stop treating me badly because it's popular when the first step of abuse is not taking me or anything I express seriously? And how do I stop getting punished for not submitting to perpetuate this abuse?