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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
Okay, so you want to distance yourself from crushing. Well first and foremost this requires distancing yourself from the object of your fancy.
Evaluate your feelings: What are they based on? Are they realistic? Are they achievable? And does the end justify the means? Who stands to gain from this and who stands to lose from this.
Ask yourself what you would tell a friend who is experiencing the very same situation?
Now evaluate the reasons not to act or possess the feelings in much the same way. I am guessing that you would find the situation to be unrealistic, that it is not worth it in the end, and that a lot of people stand to lose.
If this does not alter your feelings then I am sorry but I think you need to look for chinks in her armour. What is not so great about her and how does that impact you.
Just my thoughts.
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She's an instructor at the gym. Her class is essential to my feeling better, from the exercise alone. We talk a lot before, during, and after and are friends on social media and sometimes message, though usually about class.
Anything's achievable, but not always logical. Everyone would lose eventually.
My impulsive nature would tell a friend to go for it.
The things that aren't great about her are the things that draw me in the most. I know that says something about me, but I'm unsure what. Imperfections on a masterpiece make it more perfect, more original, and more desirable.
Also, we haven't had this conversation, but she has bipolar eyes. I see bipolar in peoples eyes. I can usually tell by meeting someone if they're bipolar. This isn't an issue, because I am bipolar too. For some reason, I've been attracted way more to bipolar women than any others, even before I know they're bipolar. It was funny in hospital, because I could look at people in the eyes and ask if they were bipolar and was right all but once.